I read with him and his reading was different from many I see on the board. I have 2 men around me, 1 an ex-husband (divorce isn't final) and my ex-bf who I love very much but he is going through not feeling if he is ready for "me"... not sure what that meant but maybe the commitment I entail, IDK, anyways... he said to focus on myself for the next 6 months to a year and i can choose to stay in the marriage or not and he won't tell me what to do but if we do try to reconcile (which I don't want to) that in a year from now I would be right back to where I am, as for other ex bf he likes him but sees that he isn't in the right place for a full long term committed relationship however we are both in a great spot for each other to be in our lives and if we can just enjoy each other now without putting a serious note on it he can see a good future. we both aren't in a spot to jump in and have this serious committed relationship, I want fun enjoyment and someone to travel and watch movies with randomly... so I would be happy with this as he is basically like a best friend to me and I love him and want him as a part of my life longterm whether just friends someday or more. He said I am doing the right thing letting him come to me and stepping back it is a defining moment as he needs to realize he needs to participate more and he sees us growing closer together and contact this week.
