I had a couple of readers tell me that my first guy was "karmic"..which actually makes a lot of sense looking back on it.
Of course, I also had many tell me he was my twin flame, and regular soulmate etc....at this point, I don't really pay too much attention to those terms anymore.
I had a street psychic many years ago tell me my emotionally abusive and manipulative ex was my twin flame.
Thankfully after crying on the train home I realized it didn't matter because I was never letting him in to wreak havoc on my life again.
Had she gotten her hooks in me earlier before the crap hit the fan, though, I may have been hooked. I really think some of these readers throw terms like this around so that you will become dependent on their guidance while you prolong what may already be an unhealthy situation.
While I do agree readers can hook people with those key words - Soul Mate, Karmic Connection and Twin Flame - I dont think any of it is meant for us to "hold on".
Folks are uneducated about the terms unfortunately - and readers are not explaining their meaning...from what you said here and the description of Twin Flames below - you MAY have actually had a TWIN FLAME with your ex...but again not that it means anything
If there is a reader that perhaps use the term truthfully (maybe a reader who is connected to information about chakras, or eastern philosophies) then what they are saying may be true - just DESCRIBING the overall TYPE of relationship. Either way when it comes down to it -
NONE of the terms MEAN nothing regarding outcome. I think that is where people get lost....
Those terms "Soulmate/Twin Flame) basically describe the type of relationship it is...basically like describing the COLOR Of a CAR....not stating what the outcome of the relationship is - kind of like Astrology and Synastry - it can describe the relationship but not the outcome
Usually with a Twin Flame relationship it has traits of the following - which may have been something people have experienced with an ex or a connection they cant get rid of:
1. You are intensely drawn to them. Without any real cause or reason, you feel as though you’ve known this person before, even if you just met.
2. They have opened you up to a completely new way of thinking. With them, you exchange ideas, beliefs, religion, and so on. You’ve “awakened” because of their love.
3. They come in and out of your life. You’re together, and then you’re not, and then you are again. Despite the fact that you love each other more than anything, one of you (the “runner”) seems to not be able to handle it, and dissolve the relationship. It’s almost as though your connection is too intense for you to be consistently together.
4. They feel like home. Upon meeting them, you immediately sense that you’ve known this person before. Your connection is too intense for you to have just been strangers – there is a deep feeling of familiarity when you’re with them.
5. You are the epitome of yin and yang. They seem just like your other half, the parts of you that were missing all along. (What you’ve yet to realize is that they are the parts of you you’ve yet to know.)
6. Looking back, you see that the period of time right after you’re with them is always defined by change. They bring about a lot of intense transformation in your life, sometimes painfully so.
7. You will find yourself becoming almost irrationally emotional when you’re with them. (These are the feelings and energies that have been in suppression, which they are there in part to help you recognize and heal.)
8. Your bond is instantaneous, and your relationship moves very quickly. Right off the bat, you “click” as though you’ve known one another forever. This only grows over time, and the more you get to know about them, the more absolutely in love you are.
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. Though you experience incredible passion for this person, there is an equal amount of worry and uncertainty. You may find yourself questioning a lot, asking yourself whether or not this is really love, or really what you want for your life.
10. It seems like you have this profound connection that must be destined, but you come into one another’s life at the wrong time, or something else stands in the way of you being together. This is not a product of ill fate, rather, it is a sign that you’re not meant to be together in the way you think you should. (The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.)
11. You are more than just lovers. You are one another’s teachers, best friends, therapists, and so on. You have such a deep and layered connection that you do a lot more for one another than just be romantic.
12. It seems like you’re always pulled back to them in one way or another.
13. Your relationship can be tumultuous at times. This is because your twin flame serves to show you everything that needs to be healed within you. This is not to be confused with “love” being painful. Love is not painful. Everything that stands in the way can be, though.
14. One of you is more “spiritual” than the other. One is more soulful, the other more practical. You teach one another the virtues of how you think and behave – that is part of your purpose.
15. You feel very attuned to them, almost telepathically. You can feel what they’re feeling, or know what they’re thinking. It’s as though you are one.
16. When you look into their eyes, you feel like you see family, or your own child. This is your soul recognizing someone it’s known before, or someone it’s very close to.
17. For as different as you are, you have many fundamental things in common. Maybe you were born on their favorite brother’s birthday, or you met on a very significant weekend. Maybe you both went to the same type of elementary and high school, or you had the same college major. One or two of these things could just be coincidence, but with a twin flame, you’ll probably have many overlapping similarities.
18. They show you what you most desire as well as what you most fear. Their purpose is not (and has never been) to make you feel “settled” or comfortable, but to help introduce you to yourself.