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Nothing worse than lying to yourself

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Starrlite:
Thank you for the advice I don't want to push him away but part of me thinks he feels the distance too

hellonurse:
Just don't make any big decisions like that too quickly. Maybe let things fall into place naturally....good luck!

sunandmoon:
I was kind of in the same boat. I had an opportunity for a new man come at me. We had been avoiding the obvious for months but then it came to a head and he actually told me he liked me, but told me it was also my choice, if I just wanted to stay friends then he was fine with that too, but he did really like me. I took a chance and decided to move on from my ex. I do still think of him, but I have not regretted a minute with this new guy. He is absolutely wonderful and I'm so glad I took the jump when I did. Else I would have been waiting for the Oct/Nov timelines to pass (which they did) and then the Spring 2012 ones, all the while still calling psychics. Like hellonurse said, just don't make any big decisions and enjoy yourself. It must at least feel great to have someone actually want to be with you! I also read something recently where someone met a great person, dated, didn't have that huge spark right away, but it did eventually happen. If they had given up because they didn't feel the spark (although they enjoyed the person) they would have missed out on a lot.

hellonurse:
I concur  ;)

Synergy:
Starrlite,

I'm a little late to this conversation, but I wanted to echo what everyone else is saying, although ultimately you have to do what's right for you.  This is such a tough situation to be in.  I'm finally ready to move on because I've met a wonderful man who's everything I could ask for, BUT I approached my ex yesterday and spent about half an hour just talking to him about everything and nothing at all.  I feel guilty because I shouldn't have given him the time of day, and I know I was flirting with him, but the connection with him is so intense.  It's difficult for me to deny it. 

Starrlite, do what you feel in your heart you need to do.  Even though I talked to my ex yesterday and was feeling the energetic pull to him, I was able to see why he is NOT the right person for me (maybe that's just "right now" or in this lifetime or whatever).  IF he loved me, he'd be with me.  Don't make excuses for your ex, but don't give up on him if you KNOW that he's the one for you. 

I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.  Let us know how everything goes.  :)

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