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Starrlite:
For the last several months, I have been dating, going out and having a good time.  All that time I have maintained a friendship with my ex.  I thought I was passed everything and he was just my best friend in the world, but it was all a lie.  At the slightest provocation last night everything erupted.  I had been with someone who is wonderful but it wasn't him, and last night everything for the past three years came out.  I still love him, and I still think he is the one but I can't control how he feels.  It is wonderful to have someone tell you how much they need you and how much you matter but somewhere along the line you would have cheated hated and resented me, so a wall had to be built for protection and he can't love me anymore.  I never did anything but worship the ground he walked on but apparently my mistake was not telling him everyday how much I loved him.  I'm not in as much pain as when it was over but this is devastating.  Time to break up with the new man who I won't be with out of rejection and time to start from square one.

Starrlite:
No my ex and I were not together I thought I had moved passed things and was seeing someone else, but things exploded and now I'm going to break up with this other man because although my ex doesn't want me, he wants to be friends and I humored him for a while, it's not fair to the new guy he doesn't deserve to be led on

hellonurse:
But don't you think you can develop feelings for the new guy? Or stronger ones?

Starrlite:
I don't think that I can not right now.  He hasn't been able to get me to forget the ex.  He's just an escape and that's not fair to him I don't want to lead him on.

hellonurse:
 Well the reason I ask is because I was in a similar situation, I started dating my current guy when my ex and I broke up 7 months ago. And up until maybe last month I was still very hung up on my ex, all the while dating new guy. I also thought it wasn't fair, but sometimes it just happens that way. Anyhow, my feelings for new guy have developed and I'm so glad i didn't push him away when I thought i should. Idk, maybe that's just me, but I'd hate for you to give something up over someone who isn't offering you much and not giving it a chance or more time.

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