All I can say from my experience with my poi is that guys are weird, and that love sucks and makes no sense lol. I'm going through a similar state of confusion with my poi also. We are hanging out again, it's great, we have tons of fun, it's like we never took a 9 month break. But he's a free man still and hearing him talk about dating other women kills me inside and I hate the uncertainty of if he's hanging around other women. I've talked to him about us and when we talk about what happened things seem really promising just from the things he tells me regarding what happened between us. But he's adamant we are just friends and hanging out. It really sucks and it's tough. But for him he is going through some things right now and has told me he doesn't want the distraction of a relationship right now.
For me to hold on to what could be a hopeless situation that will hurt me in the end. I am hanging on because I really love the guy for who he is and I really value his happiness. Wish it could be with me lol but I want him to be happy. So I know I want to be in his life. Communication was our problem so I'm trying to be more open in letting him know my feelings and intentions. But at the same time taking a chill pill and just enjoying the time we are having in the moment. I agree with not asking too many questions about what is it because that does push them away. For my situation also, as addicted to readings as I am lol, I never really listened to the psychics advice. They told me ohhh he'll reach out don't contact him blah blah blah. Eventually after 5 months I couldn't take it and caved and contacted him. And so far my own intuition has been serving me much better. I use the psychics to get more of an idea of what's going on in his head in this moment, mainly to just keep my overthinking tendencies under control.
The only advice I can give is follow your heart, but also your gut. I couldn't actually move on from the way things ended and that's why I had my pull to make contact and hold on to it. If you truly love him and being with him is something you want all you can do is give it time. Enjoy the moments for what they are and keep in touch. All you can do is throw your cards down and spell it out to him what you would like to see happen but also keeping chill and indifferent at the same time. Be his friend, show him the fun you use to have and what he's missing out on. As that connection you guys once had builds again things will get better. You can't build that overnight. But also don't let yourself get too deep, take time for yourself and enjoy yourself to. I think one thought that's helped me is to remember you can't make them love you, and you can't make them want to be with you. I believe if it's really meant to be it will work out you just have to trust the process. And if it doesn't well you just hope that women he winds up with at the end of the day will love him as much as you do.
Sincerely a person who is 99% sure I'm going to wind up a lonely cat lady for the rest of my life if I don't end up with my guy lol.
Mine is different though in the sense that he broke up with me and at least I can see him whenever. Yours living out of town makes it much harder for sure. It's going to take time and conversations. There might be reasons why behind this and only time will make him open up more. Also for me if I text my guy touchy feely questions he ignores me to. I save them for when i'm talking to him on the phone or in person, he's pretty good about discussing it with me then. But everyone is different and hard to say when you don't know the guy. If mine told me that and texted me that the next morning I'd think he was joking with the joke being hoping I was preggers so he could drop it all to be there for me.