@KotaSwan: While I can appreciate your point of view, there are some other minor details that you don't know about. I don't feel she's being "a good friend" at all. I feel like there's more to it than that. I have no issues with people inserting their opinion about my own situation since I did put it out to the public. I will tell you though, that I wouldn't be dealing with him with no contact for months and months though.........I'd not be waiting at all. When a person goes back and forth because of a situation that deals with two different locations, children, and a bad divorce.........it's a bit more complicating than that. There are also quite a few more details that I've not shared on this forum nor in private about my situation. The things I did share were things I was hurting about which I definitely shouldn't have ever shared them on a public forum. This is another lesson for me.
Nevertheless, what I said pertains to those who wait years and years with no contact. I've been in the no contact situation. Sometimes they DO come back after a year or more and sometimes they don't. My whole point was, if a person hasn't heard from another person within 6 months time, it would be healthier for said person to try to heal up, care for themselves, and try to move forward. That doesn't mean their POI will never ever come back. I'm just saying it's probably better not to put your whole life on hold for a period of years waiting for someone that hasn't spoken to you at all. My intentions aren't me trying to be judgmental. They are to try to help people.