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violet:
--- Quote from: Synergy on December 15, 2011, 06:33:57 PM ---I didn't know where to post this because it's just something I want to share and get off my chest, so I'm adding it to this thread.
Anyways, today is my work holiday party. I am attending with Chance, and my ex will see us together. I am really nervous. Not because I'm afraid of ruining things with my ex... I honestly don't want him back, but because I know he can be a real jerk, and I'm worried he'll say something off color or will just try to make me feel bad (even though I have nothing to feel bad about, he's the one who dropped me like a hot potato).
I am really excited to attend this event with Chance, and I know he'll make me feel like a princess, but I don't want it to be ruined by the idiot. I'm not going to call any readers today, so I wanted to let it all out here. Haha. I should be so happy with this new man, and really I am, but there's always some way that my ex creeps in and causes me some form of anxiety.
You all have been so supportive and helpful during this whole personal crisis, so thank you for just letting me vent right now! My friends don't want to hear about my ex anymore because they think I should be over it, and sometimes I don't know who to talk to because I just feel crazy.
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Synergy,
Don't feel bad. He should see what he gave up and realize that you are happy. I know how you feel about not having anyone to talk to. My friends are sick of me too talking about this man. Have a good time and be cordial to your ex. Have you told Chance about your ex?
LuckyInLove:
Hey Synergy:
Dont worry everything will go well. Dress your best & hand in hand walk in with Chance at the party! You deserve to be happy! Smile, laugh & have a wonderful time with the man that has brought this happiness for you.
All the best at the party & dont let anyone or anything ruin it for you. Even if your ex says something, smile & walk ahead!
Have fun!
LIL
Synergy:
Thanks you guys!!!
Yes, I was completely honest with Chance about the ex, and he's been completely understanding. I'm feeling a lot better!! My ex stopped by to see me a little bit and made small talk. I almost told him not to be surprised that I'd be at the party with someone, but I don't owe him anything, so I guess he'll just see tonight.
Thank you all for letting me share this with you! I can't wait to tell you how it went!!! ;)
sunandmoon:
I hope you have a great time! I totally understand how you feel. I am always worried my ex will see me with my new guy, and I shouldn't be. He hasn't done anything to encourage me to feel like he even considers me a friend anymore. So glad you told Chance of everything. I know all the r/s experts say you should never talk of the past with a new person but it's part of what makes us who we are and we are all in kind of bizarre situations, especially those of us who are still physically near our ex's!
Can't wait to hear about it! :)
4everhopeful:
Good luck Synergy, I hope the party goes well and I agree that it is good that you told Chance about the ex. He knows you have a past just as Im sure he does also. If he understands then he is worth hanging onto. I hope you have a wonderful time and Im so happy that things are working out for you. You go girl. WOOHOO!!!! I think you are on the road to real recovery.
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