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Synergy:
4everhopeful,
Just as sunandmoon said... we've all been there, and you are not a lost cause!!
I was with my SM for 7 months (on and off, he was never consistent), and I've been waiting for him for 6 months. It embarasses me that I've been living this way. I'd be waiting for payday just so I could go on psychic rampages and get all the false hope I could take.
There are two readers on Keen who I kept calling because they kept feeding me a fairytale. Both of them claimed my guy was my Twin Flame and that we were going to get back together because so many twin flames are uniting in this lifetime. They made all these promises. It was ridiculous.
This man isn't my Twin Flame. He isn't anything. Do I believe that I had a soul connection with him? Yes. Does that mean he's going to come back? No.
sunandmoon,
I relate to your story so much. The thing with the skates is classic! It almost sounds like we're talking about the same guy because he would always lie about little things. Even though I knew he wasn't honest, I still kept running back.
I understand that these readers can't see every little detail, but if they're only reading my energy or picking up on my desires, then why call??? I know what I think, want, and feel. I don't need to pay someone to tell me that! It makes me question everything I've been told by them.
ALL of these CP readers said I'd be in a long term committed relationship with my guy (timeframes are shown if they have not passed): Nina (2012 timeframe, but previous prediction did not pass), Jaqueline (nothing has happened), Jean (saw marriage, no short term prediction given), Vicki Joy (2012 timeframe), Lucrecia (didn't happen), William (Dec. 2011, did get a professional prediction correct), Meryl (Oct. prediction did not happen), Venus (2012 timeframe), Yvonne (2012 timeframe), Ginger (very sweet woman, but it hasn't happened), Angel, Heidi (got a prediction wrong), Alison, and Leah. Those are just the ones I remember! I wouldn't even be able to list all of the Keen readers!!
None of them have been right! I would really be surprised if all of a sudden in February (which so many readers have called out as our reconciliation month) he would just waltz right back in to tell me he's ready. He's an emotionally stunted 45 (almost 46) year old man who got himself a motorcycle, lives in a bachelor pad, and focuses solely on himself! He'd have to have a lobotomy to change so drastically! I can't say I have no hope because deep down I do still have some hope, but I can't live a lie anymore! He's not coming back. Not today, not tomorrow, and not in February. AND if somehow a miracle happens and he does come back, I don't think I even want him.
Please know that this doesn't mean I don't think any of your ex's are not coming back. I hope and pray for everyone here that these readers are accurate. I'm just saying that I am angry and frustrated with myself because I've been spending money on false hope.
I have a wonderful man in my life who respects me. He treats me the way I deserve to be treated. He doesn't lie about stupid brownies. He isn't "busy" if I need help with something or if I want him to join me at an event. I didn't have to call psychics to know how he feels about me... he actually tells me. I can't settle for the meaningless attention my SM gives me. That's nothing in comparison.
I wish I could say that I'm never calling a reader again, but that's not true. I haven't called in a few days, and I'm starting to get the itch, especially with my SM's brownie lie, BUT my new guy is keeping me busy and I think I can hold on just a bit more. He's the one who deserves my attention. :)
4everhopeful,
If your ex doesn't come back, please don't lose hope because there are good people out there who are willing to give us love, affection, and attention. It will happen.
sunandmoon:
--- Quote from: Synergy on December 06, 2011, 04:36:54 PM ---I have a wonderful man in my life who respects me. He treats me the way I deserve to be treated. He doesn't lie about stupid brownies. He isn't "busy" if I need help with something or if I want him to join me at an event. I didn't have to call psychics to know how he feels about me... he actually tells me. I can't settle for the meaningless attention my SM gives me. That's nothing in comparison.
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If your ex doesn't come back, please don't lose hope because there are good people out there who are willing to give us love, affection, and attention. It will happen.
--- End quote ---
YES!!!! First paragraph - absolutely - this is exactly where I ended up. Someone who WANTS to spend time with me, who absolutely adores me, has actually put things to do at MY house on HIS todo list and asks for nothing in return. Yes, I used to get this same treatment from my ex but something happened to change him. (I had to laugh at the age - mine turned 40 this past spring so I'm thinking midlife crisis for both? ;) ). The best part about the new guy is that he's actually secure about my feelings towards him and he doesn't text bomb me or HAVE to be with me. It's a much healthier r/s and maybe I needed to go through what I did to see that. I was able to show him a picture of me and another male friend at an event where we were holding our hands raised about our heads for the cameras and got nothing but a simple "who was that again?" as he hasn't met too many of my friends.
There ARE good people out there. Not long ago I didn't believe that either but it's true. :)
wakeupcall:
LIBRA, thank you for your responses. well i want a go get my MBA but i don't want to accrue more debt. i want the company i work for to pay for it. well i hope things change since i am on tier 4 of unemployment.
Synergy:
I didn't know where to post this because it's just something I want to share and get off my chest, so I'm adding it to this thread.
Anyways, today is my work holiday party. I am attending with Chance, and my ex will see us together. I am really nervous. Not because I'm afraid of ruining things with my ex... I honestly don't want him back, but because I know he can be a real jerk, and I'm worried he'll say something off color or will just try to make me feel bad (even though I have nothing to feel bad about, he's the one who dropped me like a hot potato).
I am really excited to attend this event with Chance, and I know he'll make me feel like a princess, but I don't want it to be ruined by the idiot. I'm not going to call any readers today, so I wanted to let it all out here. Haha. I should be so happy with this new man, and really I am, but there's always some way that my ex creeps in and causes me some form of anxiety.
You all have been so supportive and helpful during this whole personal crisis, so thank you for just letting me vent right now! My friends don't want to hear about my ex anymore because they think I should be over it, and sometimes I don't know who to talk to because I just feel crazy.
Tango:
Hi Synergy! I hope that you have fun at the party today!
I wouldn't worry too much about the ex, because it's your night to enjoy and have fun. He can be miserable if he chooses to, and if he does say something rude or try to make you feel bad, then it's just going to make him look like a fool in front of everyone attending. People will look at him like this lol :o
Maybe just give Chance the heads up if he doesn't know about the ex already? He seems like a really good guy who would be understanding about the entire situation no matter what.
Don't feel crazy; I don't talk to my friends about my ex either because they don't want to hear it. They also think I should have moved on long ago. I just wish it were that easy!
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