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Libra:
Wakeup call I am Libra and last 3 yeas was nothing but abundance and wealth (I spent some of it on psychics  ;D) I also went to school, opened my own business etc. On the other had it was disastrous in the love department. I hears Saturn is reaching last days of Libra sign so it might be you and that is why the stagnation with jobs, any way you could do some training or get more skills to have better chances? Saturn is usually helpful with that.

BP1990:
Yeah I agree about the brownie thing not being too much of a big deal but I see where both sides are coming from. I don't want to give the benefit of the doubt but I feel that psychics can pick up on a certain amount of things and if we build these high expectations and have this mentality that psychics should know everything and every detail then we are in for a big disappointment. I noticed that sometimes(though we don't want to) giving them a hint or a quick background can help them pick up on more details instead of them randomly picking it up and it doesn't mean you have to give your whole life story. Remember you are only speaking to this people for a certain amount of time so you can not know everything and some things are better left to figure out and learn on your own.

sunandmoon:
There was a psychic I called for over a year. I spoke to her multiple times a week. She recognized my voice after a couple of months so she was certainly connected to me and knew the situation well. I think she is wonderful to talk to. But she never picked up on the girl he actually had a r/s with (an affair at that) until *I* found out it was a fact. I had seen an xmas card in his apartment NYD and she said it was from someone that wanted to be with hm but the feelings weren't reciprocated. Fact is he was SLEEPING with her at that time. Now the other girl that was interested in him, I do believe that nothing ever happened between them physically but this girl that left a card - no doubt about it and for months. Yet only one or two random psychics ever picked up that he was with someone during that time and they were so off base on everything else that I discounted them.

This particular psychic has told me her predictions are within 2 years and she had predicted marriage for me etc. But she did always say my ex would come back and we'd be together. I do love talking to her as a great friend but I also am a little more skeptical these days on true psychic abilities.

I am believing more and more that we often get what we WANT to hear from them. Honestly if you look at many of our threads there is a definite pattern to what we are being told - down to timelines. I was already seeing that as I spent a year calling. As a set of timelines would pass, they would move out again to spring, fall etc. Didn't matter who I called. I'd love to talk to someone who used to work the lines and hear what they have to say as I'd bet they are coached about what to say generally. I'd bet 99% of us could do the same on a psychic line and there was someone on here who said recently they did just that. His mom would call me about her r/s and 9 times out of 10 I could tell  her what would happen in the next week based on my dealings with my ex and the months of talking to her about HER r/s. It wasn't rocket science.

I have spent THOUSANDS to find out answers and got nothing but a credit card that will take years to pay off now when I can least afford it. I have no idea how I am going to get through winter since my health insurance has increased over $200/mo in the past year on top of all that - I barely survived last winter and I'm not sure I can work any more than I do now.

Oh and did anyone see the video from CA a few days ago about real and fake psychics? Thought that was a little funny.

I am not trying to burst anyones bubble but this forum has been a lifesaver for me because it speaks the truth and understands both sides of the equation. If you want to wait for someone because a psychic says to, then do so. But waiting years when you see what is happening in front of your face isn't healthy - and I did just that (18 months).

Oh and Synergy - I have to comment again on the brownie. First I'm glad someone actually admitted to leaving it - that was a great gesture!  :)

But I know how you feel about the lie..... summer 2010 I had suggested my ex and I go rollerblading at a trail we both like. He replied "sorry can't, sold them!". Which I fully believed because he was thinking of moving and had gotten rid of a ton of stuff - some of which I helped him with.

Imagine my shock when I was in his place NYD and the damn skates were sitting right there in his closet. That was a complete slap in the face.

Of course I didn't care because he had just told me he loved me, missed me and wanted to make things better so I was on cloud 9 (in addition to him calling me to spend the day with me) but as the months went on I certainly thought about it. He could have just said he was tired or sore or anything that he normally did but nope, he sold them.

So yes it's a silly brownie but OTOH it's so much more.

4everhopeful:
Sunandmoon, I did see the video at CP and she stated that if you have to tell your psychic the scenario, then they arent psychic. Then you can read other blogs from some of the other psychics and they say that a little information helps them to tune in. Who knows? I really prefer the ones that dont need any input from me and Nina is one of the only ones that could ever tell me anything without info from me. I remember a few years ago, I called her so upset and by the time she got on the line all I could say was "I dont even know what to ask you". She started in and told me exactly what had been going on and how I was feeling and hit on some very specific stuff. But to date, none of her predictions have happened. Maybe its like some of us are thinking now, that I was so focused on everything that my energy caused a complete shift in how things were supposed to work out. Last time I talked to Nina was in August and she still stuck to her guns and was very confident of things coming together no matter how long it has been since any contact. Im really trying to just move on, but still think of him daily, just not with the same focus as before. Trying to open myself up to others but still at a point of just not wanting anyone else and dont feel that I can have the emotions for anyone else that I had for him. I still feel so stupid sometimes but then I tell myself that he was and is the stupid one for throwing us away like he did. How can any woman still love someone that walks away like that??????? But here I am doing that very thing. Beginning to think Im a lost cause, lol. But at least Im not calling psychics now. Its been a couple of months now. And the one that gave me several free email readings had to have the scenario before the reading then I emailed her a few nights ago about a completely different thing but didnt tell her anything except I had a falling out with a friend and could she tell me what it was about or if it would be smoothed over. She couldnt tell me what the fight was about or anything concerning that problem. So much for her psychic ability, lol. So I was right, she is simply a counselor. So Im back to not believing her predictions for me and SM. I so wish I had never tried psychics for love/relationship issues. But once you do, you seem to go back from time to time when you have had little things happen.

sunandmoon:
First off, you're not a lost cause - NONE of us are! I was where you are as well, for so long. And if I hadn't decided to take a chance on this new guy - which was HUGE as we work together - I'd still be there. I also still think of my ex even though I am very happy in my current r/s and couldn't imagine leaving the new guy for my ex. I have no idea how he managed to get under my skin the way he did.

I read an email from a r/s expert who also works with others (not psychics) and they said the highest chance of an ex coming back was in something like 6 weeks! I held on for 18 months when he drew further and further away in the last 9. I used every little excuse in the book for him - and while they were probably right (the excuses), it doesn't excuse the fact that this man believed in US enough to insert himself in my marriage and then over a year after my divorce decided we were done and forgot to tell me about it. How could a man who could be so bold as to cause public scenes and get upset when I wouldn't be affectionate in public be such a wimp when it mattered? There is really no excuse for that. I read into every nuance, every time he gave me something, called me, emailed me, liked a pic on facebook. That all meant he cared. Did he? If he really did he would have made more effort I think.

I think so much of what the psychics give us is common sense. A high percentage of callers are calling about a r/s and a failed one at that. And I know when I first started to call I was so upset I wouldn't even be able to speak, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Then we start calling for an "update in our situation". I even learned how to word things so it didn't sound as if we had just broken up, I was looking for info on a man I am interested in. 9 times out of 10 they saw us a soul mates, he thinks about me, he cares about me, he has money worries, people are influencing him. All true. But how true is all that for everyone else when you really think about it?  :(

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