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Letting go and moving on

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4everhopeful:
Well girls, I went on my dinner date. He was tall, blue eyes, of course he had gray hair, lol. And a little balding on top but thats ok. He had a nice smile and we talked and laughed throughout dinner and I thought it went great. Before the date night we had talked about how to spend the evening and I had suggested a walk around our little town square where the fountain is, just to talk and get to know each other. He said it sounded great. After our meal, he asked if I was ready to go. I said "Sure, Im sure we can find somewhere to sit and talk for a while". Then he said"Well actually I need to get back and do some paperwork. I usually have some papers to finish up at the end of the day and I dont mind doing it at night since Im always just sitting there anyway."
So I said ok and that I understood and he walked me to my car and hugged me and gave me a little kiss, just a peck on the lips. Then smiled and said he hoped he could see me again. I said sure, just let me know. We parted ways and that was it. So Im not holding my breath to hear from him. If I do ok, if I dont thats ok too. But I did think it a little strange that he was ready to leave as soon as dinner was over. I thought it was going well. But at this point I feel that he didnt like me so much after all. Seems to always turn out this way anymore. I really thought I was a fairly attractive woman, even though I do carry a few extra pounds now but nothing excessive. Really takes a toll on your self esteem though to be rejected so quickly just on your appearance alone. And to tell you the truth, I thought he was attractive enough but he sure wasnt anything to write home about and I wouldnt call him handsome. Maybe he's pickier than I am, lol. Oh well, who cares?

lightme:
hi 4ever, just going out to meet new people is a good start!

Inactive- PHN:
I think it is good to move on if that is what you really want to do I personally went on a date and it reminded me that I am not ready to date someone knew

lightme:
i read that dating could be light, don't have to pressure yourself something must come out of it. the idea is to make yourself go out again, a first step towards moving on. knowing new people will distract us from focusing on our ex, you don't need to be ready because you are not required to get invoived emotionally.

i also read that ( from john gray ) when  you date, you should date at least 3 persons at the same time. he doesn't mean you sleep with all three people. it is just normal outing, like friends. by doing so, again you won't focus on just one person and get hurt if the person is not interested. you also keep new dates coming in, and those whom you are not interested in you stop seeing them again. is like flowing water, until you meet the right one. and keep your attitude light and don't commit too fast. this will minimise hurt a lot.

i am not saying i can do the above, i can't, i have no interest. but if you are looking for someone special, this is the way suggested by john gray and i personally think it makes sense.

Inactive- PHN:
That is good tips for someone that wants to move on but I personally dont want to. I love this man very much even though I broke up with him. I was forced by his mom and my mom. No other guy can make me happy the way he does. He is my best friend, and when you really love someone u can't move on. I talked to one of his friends and he told me that my ex wants to be with me and the reason he pulled back was he did not want to get me involved in the situation. Their was so much confussion going on jacqueline and the other psychics was right. The two of us will be together when the time is right, and I know that.

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