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The art of letting go
njlady:
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 19, 2018, 08:08:37 PM ---It’s more complicated than that I’m afraid.
He’s not dating and will not be dating anyone else . He’s busy traveling for work , but one work trip didn’t happen and I’m suprised he didn’t text me to tell me so.
--- Quote from: njlady on August 19, 2018, 08:02:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 19, 2018, 07:33:29 PM ---I’m so glad you started this.
I’m feeling worried because my silence may lead him to just disappear into the abyss. However , I know if I reach out, I’ll wonder if he really wants to talk to me .
He was so great at reaching out to start , but then the texts got further lengths of time between them. Now it’s been two weeks , I’m refusing to reach out because of reasons above , but also because he told me that he would let me know at the end of this month when he’s free. I don’t believe he’s going to , to be honest. He always used to ask how I am, etc, now if I get a message it’s a rant about how crappy his life is.
So now I’m like , you know what ? Forget it. He’s obviously not ready to see me , so why should
I force it? It hurts , but I think that if he really wanted to see me , he would have .
So now I’m focusing on myself . Doing things for me, just being happy.
But I still have that worry that if I silent. He will continue to be. Tough life lol
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Kristina,
He thinks you're his personal Complaint Desk and is going to "let (you) know at the end of the month when he's free"??? That's code for I'm keeping the door open in case something better doesn't come along. Don't let yourself get used. Block and walk.
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Kristina,
You don't know what he is doing 24/7. Not putting yourself on equal ground, being a doormat, letting him not have to give you anything to keep you sitting around is not doing yourself any favors. He's already tested you and knows you will put up with crumbs from him. He doesn't have to pay attention to you, be respectful to you, let you know his plans or intentions, make plans in advance with you ... nothing. Block and walk.
diamondcanadian:
You’re not wrong.
--- Quote from: njlady on August 19, 2018, 08:28:55 PM ---
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 19, 2018, 08:08:37 PM ---It’s more complicated than that I’m afraid.
He’s not dating and will not be dating anyone else . He’s busy traveling for work , but one work trip didn’t happen and I’m suprised he didn’t text me to tell me so.
--- Quote from: njlady on August 19, 2018, 08:02:51 PM ---
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 19, 2018, 07:33:29 PM ---I’m so glad you started this.
I’m feeling worried because my silence may lead him to just disappear into the abyss. However , I know if I reach out, I’ll wonder if he really wants to talk to me .
He was so great at reaching out to start , but then the texts got further lengths of time between them. Now it’s been two weeks , I’m refusing to reach out because of reasons above , but also because he told me that he would let me know at the end of this month when he’s free. I don’t believe he’s going to , to be honest. He always used to ask how I am, etc, now if I get a message it’s a rant about how crappy his life is.
So now I’m like , you know what ? Forget it. He’s obviously not ready to see me , so why should
I force it? It hurts , but I think that if he really wanted to see me , he would have .
So now I’m focusing on myself . Doing things for me, just being happy.
But I still have that worry that if I silent. He will continue to be. Tough life lol
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Kristina,
He thinks you're his personal Complaint Desk and is going to "let (you) know at the end of the month when he's free"??? That's code for I'm keeping the door open in case something better doesn't come along. Don't let yourself get used. Block and walk.
--- End quote ---
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Kristina,
You don't know what he is doing 24/7. Not putting yourself on equal ground, being a doormat, letting him not have to give you anything to keep you sitting around is not doing yourself any favors. He's already tested you and knows you will put up with crumbs from him. He doesn't have to pay attention to you, be respectful to you, let you know his plans or intentions, make plans in advance with you ... nothing. Block and walk.
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Spaceship29:
Law of attraction.
What you focus on becomes bigger in your life. So if you focus on this person not being in your life the energy you put into that continues. You attract more lack of their presence in your life. The saying goes what you resist persists meaning if you are not accepting of the fact this person is not in your life at the moment it will continue to be. The sooner you’re able to accept what is. You’ll be relieved. Let go.
Doesn’t necessarily mean give up but just free yourself from these thoughts. Move on = distract and Be ok with the fact that there is a possibility this person will not return. - that’s the hard part for many.
But also be open that they can come back.
Basically don’t be attached to any specific outcome. You’ll be ok in either instance.
It’s funny because this does happen when I’m not consciously focused on letting go. Basically let go of the idea of letting go lol
As time passed my focus went else where and eventually the poi will have come back. Times in the past for me have been I’ve moved on like completely and don’t really care about their existence. I’ll entertain them to see how their life has been but as far as romantically I’m over it. But it took a while to get there.
doubleoh8:
Hi and thanks to everyone who's chiming in on the thread.
I get that it's a law of attraction issue, and I get that to focus on the absence of something (or someone) only makes that absence grow... For me the struggle is in controlling my thoughts and feelings around it. I am waking up daily with a feeling of heartache these days, for example, and it takes me a little bit to reset.
That said, good advice from several people. I really like your watching a cake bake analogy on the other thread @spaceship, and @njlady you are right on with the working out, meditation / prayer and adventures. My butt and abs could really use some attention:)
One thought too for you @Kristina: For me a lot of letting go is really shifting your perspective -- or reframing your focus -- so that YOU are the main character in your story. Then if the other person is not showing up, it's just a sign that they are a bit player and not that important to your story right now. From that vantage point, you also can stop taking what they do so personally and detach from it. In your situation as described, for example, the guy is complaining about how crappy his life is. Maybe it really is crappy. And maybe consider that, if you detach a bit, his lack of communication really is a reflection of his crappy life AND you don't want to get yourself wrapped up with someone whose life is crappy. They have little to give and will just bring you down. Again, I know this is easier said than done, but I think once you focus on you and your life, the people who are not adding value to it are so much less important.
calibabe:
I love this thread so much. It is all about surrendering, and most importantly everything njlady touched on. Being the best version of yourself. You can't control other people but you CAN control yourself... How you view yourself, how much value you give yourself and realizing that YOU are the prize. YOU choose if you want the man not the other way around. I am so focused on bettering myself; exercising regularly which helps my confidence, going out with friends and adventures, excelling in my career, volunteering in my free time. It all about how you feel and your emotions. As Abraham Hicks says, you have to feel it before it manifests. Fall in love with yourself first, once you do that how could everyone else not fall in love with you?
I am a big fan of Agnes Vivarelli as well and the untethered soul is on my list of books to read. I would like to recommend creative visualization which is a great book on manifesting your desires. Its a great read and so so many things have been manifesting for me now that I know how to use it.
I wish you all luck on your journey but this is really where it all starts! Much love! XO
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