Metaphysical, Spiritual and Psychic Discussions > Psychic Readings That Came True
The art of letting go
Spaceship29:
--- Quote from: doubleoh8 on August 20, 2018, 04:01:39 PM ---Hi and thanks to everyone who's chiming in on the thread.
I get that it's a law of attraction issue, and I get that to focus on the absence of something (or someone) only makes that absence grow... For me the struggle is in controlling my thoughts and feelings around it. I am waking up daily with a feeling of heartache these days, for example, and it takes me a little bit to reset.
That said, good advice from several people. I really like your watching a cake bake analogy on the other thread @spaceship, and @njlady you are right on with the working out, meditation / prayer and adventures. My butt and abs could really use some attention:)
One thought too for you @Kristina: For me a lot of letting go is really shifting your perspective -- or reframing your focus -- so that YOU are the main character in your story. Then if the other person is not showing up, it's just a sign that they are a bit player and not that important to your story right now. From that vantage point, you also can stop taking what they do so personally and detach from it. In your situation as described, for example, the guy is complaining about how crappy his life is. Maybe it really is crappy. And maybe consider that, if you detach a bit, his lack of communication really is a reflection of his crappy life AND you don't want to get yourself wrapped up with someone whose life is crappy. They have little to give and will just bring you down. Again, I know this is easier said than done, but I think once you focus on you and your life, the people who are not adding value to it are so much less important.
--- End quote ---
I was watching a youtube video and when they said
"Sometimes you're just an extra in someone's move called life"
sent chills
because I honestly felt that way about a being before. Like anytime we got together It was always at some turning point in their lives and I don't feel like they added nor really subtracted. I don't think i really picked up anything from them per say.
but yeah. sometimes in your or another person's life you're just a support cast. Their leading lover will come along later.
but yes. letting go is very hard. I have the knowledge but actually practicing it, can be difficult.
I tell myself everyday
"if you knew with certainty what you envisioned was going to happen, regardless of what happens in your life, would you still worry?"
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 20, 2018, 05:52:06 PM ---Thanks !
I really have been trying now to focus on me .
I’ve been telling myself that oh well, I’ll let it go, he’ll come back. But now looking at it and thinking about it, I can’t be positive that he will. And if he doesn’t, it’s okay. He’s not the right person for me then.
It’s hard , because I was sure he was , but I’m pretty sure I can find someone greater who treats me with the respect I deserve :)
Don’t settle xo
--- Quote from: doubleoh8 on August 20, 2018, 04:01:39 PM ---Hi and thanks to everyone who's chiming in on the thread.
I get that it's a law of attraction issue, and I get that to focus on the absence of something (or someone) only makes that absence grow... For me the struggle is in controlling my thoughts and feelings around it. I am waking up daily with a feeling of heartache these days, for example, and it takes me a little bit to reset.
That said, good advice from several people. I really like your watching a cake bake analogy on the other thread @spaceship, and @njlady you are right on with the working out, meditation / prayer and adventures. My butt and abs could really use some attention:)
One thought too for you @Kristina: For me a lot of letting go is really shifting your perspective -- or reframing your focus -- so that YOU are the main character in your story. Then if the other person is not showing up, it's just a sign that they are a bit player and not that important to your story right now. From that vantage point, you also can stop taking what they do so personally and detach from it. In your situation as described, for example, the guy is complaining about how crappy his life is. Maybe it really is crappy. And maybe consider that, if you detach a bit, his lack of communication really is a reflection of his crappy life AND you don't want to get yourself wrapped up with someone whose life is crappy. They have little to give and will just bring you down. Again, I know this is easier said than done, but I think once you focus on you and your life, the people who are not adding value to it are so much less important.
--- End quote ---
--- End quote ---
This is so key. A person who is meant to be in your life, will be...there really is a reason for everything. Trust that if they aren't in your life, even if it's just for the time being, that's what is best for you.
It's a really hard realization to make. I know with my past POI, I still have trouble accepting that I wasted so much time and emotions and MONEY (lol) on him, and I hope one day I know why it happened. But I DO know that it's for the best, so whatever reason he's not in my life, is for my own better good.
karma17:
I follow Agnes and through her channel I came across Dan RadioStyle (she did a couple of videos with him). His explanations on LOA are so so good and he uses small everyday examples which, for me, simplified understanding the process..it’s like “LOA For Dummies”
Here he talks about the importance of Letting Go- https://youtu.be/qcP1tsclE6U
No new info and pretty much talked about in most LOA videos but he explains it well...
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Still tired on August 21, 2018, 09:03:37 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on August 21, 2018, 07:10:49 PM ---This is so key. A person who is meant to be in your life, will be...there really is a reason for everything. Trust that if they aren't in your life, even if it's just for the time being, that's what is best for you.
It's a really hard realization to make. I know with my past POI, I still have trouble accepting that I wasted so much time and emotions and MONEY (lol) on him, and I hope one day I know why it happened. But I DO know that it's for the best, so whatever reason he's not in my life, is for my own better good.
--- End quote ---
I agree and same for me. I struggle with accepting that this took so many years out of my life, so much money and took such a toll on me emotionally. I know I learned a lot from it but still, I wish it hadn't happened this way.
Anyway I wasn't really able to let go until I realized my ex and I were not remotely compatible. We think and see the world in such totally different ways there was no way we would ever be able to get along. And if we had ended up together it would have been really bad for me.
I realize now I was having a spiritual and ideological crisis all those years, and I couldn't think my way out of this emotional dilemma because my own reasoning was all mixed up with conflicting ideas. And my ex represented all the ideas and beliefs I needed to let go of. I just couldn't see it until certain things happened that made it clear. The timing absolutely sucked, unfortunately, that it took so many years for the whole sequence of events to play out.
--- End quote ---
I so hear you, Tired. That's the hardest part for me too..took so much time away from me. Of course, I let it happen too, but I was so connected to this guy for whatever reason. I try not to be so hard on myself about it, but it's something I find myself getting really down about a lot. I also think it would not have worked out with my past POI even though I had blinders on at the time about who he really was and how wrong what he was with a lot of the things he did to me, in reality, I don't think I would have been able to get past that. But between the readings painting this rosy picture of the two of us and our happily ever after and my weird connection to him, it was extremely hard to realize it would never happen.
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[*] Previous page
Go to full version