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The art of letting go
doubleoh8:
I wanted to start a new thread inspired by some comments posted under another discussion today. The comments were:
Quote from: HornetKick on August 18, 2018, 03:11:27 PM
Quote from: Kristinajt on August 18, 2018, 02:17:29 PM
I guess another person said readers had said to let go and they don’t come back.
I guess I just don’t understand how me being quiet and doing my own thing will make him come back.
Because the energy of you wanting something so badly is the same energy that is strong enough to push it away...or so I've been told.
Quote from: Still Tired on August 18, 2018
Basically what Hornet Kick said. And it's wanting to "make him come back" that pushes away, because when you feel that way about it, you're using your will. That energy comes from the solar plexus and when the other person feels it, they may feel like they are being manipulated. And with some people, that will push them away because they don't like that feeling. Someone else, they might come back around but start to engage in a battle of wills with you to assert their will over yours. When you come from the heart and have genuine acceptance for whatever someone chooses to do, it softens the energy and the other person may feel more drawn to you because of it.
I know it is often easier said, than done.
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I think this is absolutely true and had a powerful experience with it the other day. Specifically, I had a bonafide 'let go' moment related to a person I have pined for... and called about... for the past couple of years.
I couldn't agree more with the statement 'easier said than done,' and I think there is some misunderstanding about what letting go really is. You can be moving on with your life, dating other people, not even wanting the person in question back... but not in the energetic let-go space as described by tired. Sometimes I even think the holding on can be mostly on an unconscious level, and people think they have let go but they really haven't. If you are wanting someone back, letting go to get them back, dating to get them back or just distract yourself, or even angry at the person and trying to push them away energetically ... you haven't really let go. This is my opinion, anyway.
The let-go moment I had was a giant shift that only lasted about 2 days, sadly. A few things happened that made me suddenly feel super compassionate and empathetic to my POI's own perspective and situation. I realised on a deep level that it was unfair of me to ask him for something that he is not prepared to give (emotionally and otherwise). I also suddenly saw that I may not be the best choice for him and felt like he should have what he needs. There was just this releasing of the attachment to it and a feeling of warmth and love and acceptance. I think part of that came from having a different man visit me -- a friend/ acquaintance who wants more but I don't. He really pushes my boundaries consistently and it showed me how awful it is to be on the receiving end of that kind of attention and energy. And there were other things...
Anyway, when I let go I felt this crazy energy come back at me from my POI. It was awesome. It was really warm and loving too and I could tell that he wanted to connect with me. He didn't... but I got this powerful sign (a bit woo woo, but hey, we're on a psychic review site). It was so powerful that I slipped back into the familiar feeling of attachment, unfortunately, and I haven't been able to truly let go again.
So -- sorry for the long lead up, but I wanted to mostly start a conversation about letting go and see if anyone has any tips on how to effectively do this? I certainly could use them!
njlady:
Read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. It will teach you how not to be a slave to every thought that comes into your head and to just observe. That in and of itself is very freeing. People who have trouble meditating can really benefit from this book also. Actually, everyone could.
Turn your attention to yourself instead of the other person. I work out every day, take classes, pray and meditate, be of service, have experiences and adventures ... because whether or not I end up with a happily ever after with someone else, I am 100% for sure ending up with MY butt and abs, my mind, my soul, my conscience, my memories, my regrets, etc. Knowing that you are doing the best you can with what you have builds your confidence and draws others to you.
flora0250:
--- Quote from: njlady on August 19, 2018, 06:59:03 PM ---Read The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. It will teach you how not to be a slave to every thought that comes into your head and to just observe. That in and of itself is very freeing. People who have trouble meditating can really benefit from this book also. Actually, everyone could.
Turn your attention to yourself instead of the other person. I work out every day, take classes, pray and meditate, be of service, have experiences and adventures ... because whether or not I end up with a happily ever after with someone else, I am 100% for sure ending up with MY butt and abs, my mind, my soul, my conscience, my memories, my regrets, etc. Knowing that you are doing the best you can with what you have builds your confidence and draws others to you.
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Ahhh! Thank you for this thread and yes love that book the Untethered Soul. So good. Learning to experience emotions but not let them define you. That was the big take away I got. And I am having many let it be moments myself. I am also letting go. But I feel like I always like the phrase let it be more because it is acceptance of your own emotions vs sometimes letting go can sound - like forced. Like an admonition or something. I think people need to let go when they are ready and able to. And let be in the mean time.
Anyway great thread and great idea for a topic of discussion. I am so so happy I am finally learning to let go but know that it doesn’t mean I love this man any less or that things will or won’t happen a certain way. It’s just literally giving him the gift of space and choice and knowing I have to mean that in earnest. But it really is a gift. Even if he doesn’t know it. Only good things can come from that on both ends. And it doesn’t mean I can’t still experience the grief etc. But it’s different than wanting things my way.
Love to all on this lesson.
njlady:
--- Quote from: Kristinajt on August 19, 2018, 07:33:29 PM ---I’m so glad you started this.
I’m feeling worried because my silence may lead him to just disappear into the abyss. However , I know if I reach out, I’ll wonder if he really wants to talk to me .
He was so great at reaching out to start , but then the texts got further lengths of time between them. Now it’s been two weeks , I’m refusing to reach out because of reasons above , but also because he told me that he would let me know at the end of this month when he’s free. I don’t believe he’s going to , to be honest. He always used to ask how I am, etc, now if I get a message it’s a rant about how crappy his life is.
So now I’m like , you know what ? Forget it. He’s obviously not ready to see me , so why should
I force it? It hurts , but I think that if he really wanted to see me , he would have .
So now I’m focusing on myself . Doing things for me, just being happy.
But I still have that worry that if I silent. He will continue to be. Tough life lol
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Kristina,
He thinks you're his personal Complaint Desk and is going to "let (you) know at the end of the month when he's free"??? That's code for I'm keeping the door open in case something better doesn't come along. Don't let yourself get used. Block and walk.
alphabetsoup:
Agnes Vivarelli on YouTube. Her videos about surrender. I'm doing them now and it's not working as quickly as I would like this is not a very easy thing to do. I've been practising surrender in areas of my life where it's a little easier, that seems to be helpful.
I understand what you mean Double, by being pulled back in, the same thing will happen to me. I'll be doing good, then all of a sudden there's a sign and I'm all "let me hitch my wagon to his star" again.
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