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What to do?
vanyct:
I will comment on the letting go part. I've been obsessed/depressed/and any other type of essed you can think of for some time now. I was at home feeling sorry for myself and put in season 2 of Dawsons Creak. I heard Dawson speak those same wise words, if you want someone back, let them go. I thought about and it started to make sense, so I decided to let him go, in my heart wish him the best and just let him go.
A few days later I hear from him again wanting to take me out for my birthday. Unfortunately I give in too easily and then we are right back where we started from :(
So depending on your situation, and what type of outcome you are looking for, letting and then standing your ground may work.
cocoapple:
I know it's hard and it sucks. I admit, at times i still have that crappy feeling inside when i'm all alone. My mind starts wondering off again and i try to push those thoughts away. Fake it till you make it right? With every ending comes a new beginning. I started looking at things differently and hey, if you really look at it, either you break up or they die right? One day they will all go and with that thought in mind, it was better to have had than to not at all and i cherished what we had together but there's a time when you need to accept that that chapter has written itself and it's done. BUT, that doesn't mean there might not be a continuation. That continuation itself however, may not be in your next chapter but might be a couple pages down ahead you'll never know.
LLL, i know it supper sucks and you tried to reach out but if you don't hear from him, that's plain rude and childish and he's not worth it. For me, i reached out and i got a response BUT it was all there is, a friendly response. Somehow it made me realize that that's all that was left of us. I have to accept that whether i like it or not. If mine comes back tomorrow and says he wants to get back together with me, I would tell him I need to think about it because i don't know if i want to open up myself to a person who once hurt me so deeply. I know you should think about that too. If he comes back after all the shit that's had happened and this moving in with another girl so easily, would you take him back like that?
vanyct:
I will add my personal experience to cocoapple’s advice. Before I met this guy that I am in love with now, I had been in plenty of unhealthy/bad relationships. The one who really left me bitter and jaded about love was my boyfriend from high school who I was with for eight years. During the course of those 8 years there were several really bad break-ups, and then came the I’m sorry and we would end up back together. I guess it all finally ended when I realized that 1. He was not going to change. 2. Even if he did, the resentment, anger and lack of trust that I had for him were not going to let us have the happy ending I really wanted. My advice to you would be to really sit down and think, after everything he has put you through, do you still want HIM back, or do you just want the idea of him? From what you’ve said in your posts he has not been very nice to you lately and had shown you a side of him that you may not want anymore.
LiveLaughLove:
Well I talked to my ex and he said he's moved on...so all the money I spent has been a waste. Never talking to a psychic again. Thanks for those who had been involved in this with me...but its time for me to say so long. What's crazy is I told these ppl I was dating someone and they all said he's just a distraction my ex is coming back. Smh
LiveLaughLove:
I jst wanted to know what was gonna happen. I was tired of waiting and waiting and waiting for him to contact me and I wanted closure. He didn't say he'll never talk to me again or we wouldn't get together one day but he didn't not say it either..basically said our relationship was great but I've moved on. I know youll find someone special because you are. take care aka we probably won't be together again...oh well I guess.. I tried.
Now im going to go leave feedback on the 2 advisors I used on Keen who said we were going to get back together
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