Hi all,
A friend found this and forwarded it to me and I’ve been hooked on reading your stories all weekend. This is like a relationship forum with everyone that “gets it”.
My quick story is not pretty. I was in a r/s that should have ended in the early 2000’s. Instead I got married to the guy. 18 months later someone swept me off my feet and he was attached to my hip for 3.5 years. I say he was, because I was so burnt out from the affair that I needed some alone time, and by that I mean I simply wanted to sleep alone a couple of nights a week. I thought that was healthy for a little while, he thought it meant I didn’t want him which was far from the truth. I really did want him, I just wanted some time to process my life and what I had done. I had a lot of guilt to work through on so many levels.
Over a year after my divorce was final, something snapped in him and he walked away with no warning. (I actually got a huge clue from his mom last night, I think I dejavued him into thinking I was going to leave him like his last serious r/s did) One day sex was “too confusing” and that was that. I made it two months (lost 14 lbs the first), emailed him a ton - he never shut me out but we certainly didn’t have a r/s anymore. Then I saw some ad for a psychic service, started calling and sadly got hooked. ALMOST got scammed but that’s a whole other story. I have reeled myself in a lot but I do still call.
This was in April 2010 that he walked. So my situation has been going on a very long time and it’s been a very bizarre road.
I have a couple of questions before I delve into my story any deeper.
I see some of you have mentioned the services keeping notes on us, I am guessing by phone number. I’ve often wondered if readers did this anyway but I was floored when a highly rated reader gave me an almost identical reading (she never asked if she had read for me previously and she had months earlier) and some of the stuff she said was no longer valid and I felt that she was just reading me a story. So disappointed. I had called her back a second time because when I read my notes, she told me that she saw someone around him, someone from his past. I dismissed it and then months later discovered he attempted a r/s and then ended it and it WAS someone that he had known for many years. I was so thrilled that she was the only one that had seen this that I called her again and got the EXACT same line from her, when I knew in fact it was no longer the case, she essentially gave me my first reading again.
I know that the rip off site sometimes has employees that post - has anyone from a psychic service ever admitted that they keep notes?
I have pretty much stopped calling psychics that use astrology as I saw a definite pattern with them. Everything always went seasonally as far as timelines go.
But now I am stuck where so many are saying Aug/Sept or at the latest fall. September counts for early fall I guess. Many are CP so that’s why I wonder about the notes. In the past a couple of CP’s have said this will be long term - possibly even next spring/summer. Ellen Hartwell says this, but all things considered this is really not that far out.
I did talk to Ellen Hartwell and was very impressed by some things that she picked up. They rarely pick up that I had been married, and when I started to call I was barely a year out of the marriage.
I’ve quite enjoyed some of your comments on timing, soulmates and free will - and at this point wish I had bookmarked them! I have done some of the CP Verbena exercises but I did not get the results I was looking for - i.e. I didn’t feel as though I connected to him. Maybe he felt it more than me. I used to regularly try and connect with him quickly each night but that’s kind of fallen by the wayside as months have gone by.
Another question I have..... he may have a personality disorder. A couple have picked up on this as well.... I am guessing that affects things even more. He actually seems hard to read for them, I call those that have the reviews of picking up names and details and it just never seems to happen for me.
I see many posts that say the psychics tell you not to contact your sm. Is this consistent from psychic to psychic? Do they do this more when the sm. is a man vs woman? i.e. the whole “don’t chase a guy” thing? I had also talked to Steve Gunn last fall and he told me I should talk to him and tell him that I am here for him, but he hurts me by continuing to run away. Ellen said that giving him space is the right thing to do, which is what I’ve been doing intuitively. They both volunteered this info. OTOH I have gotten free readings on other forums and that’s gone both ways too, but usually to stay back.
I guess I am trying to convince myself that some of these psychics really do have gifts and that some of the money I have spent was not for naught.
Anyway I am glad to have found you. At some point I will made a post about those I’ve read with. Please don’t take it personally if I sometimes edit out stuff from a post, like the PD stuff. That would not go well for me if he ever discovered this!