I'd like to ask: Do you have any tips for getting the best reading? As in... call someone earlier in their shift, or call less often, I think these are pretty self-evident. But anything else? How about the right questions to ask, or the right way to frame a question?
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I’m glad you asked that! Yes I have some tips; that is one of the things that has been discussed in the advisor forums ad nauseam. Advisors HATE it when you ask “When is he going to call” or “When is he coming back.” For one thing, it’s not a question that’s going to get you any insight on the situation or relationship. It’s not going to tell you why he left or what your role in it was or what you can do to improve the relationship and avoid coming to the same place again and repeating destructive cycles. It’s a question that asks us to cut out the flood of information we’re receiving about the relationship and just give you a date. Secondly, for the most part we advisors know that pinning down timing is an art that few have mastered. I myself have never had an advisor give me an accurate date, and I don’t personally believe that psychic ability even works that way or that predicting events happening on a specific date can really be done. A timeframe within a few months, sure, but within a few days? Good luck with that. Most of us don’t see events as they unfold on a calendar, plus your actions and the energy you put out affect your relationships and surroundings. So when you just ask “When is he going to contact me,” you are not only NOT asking a question that’s going to help you or your relationship in any way, but you are asking the advisor to do the hardest work they can while they know it won’t help you. I’m telling you they complain about this in the forums all the damn time. Hate it! If you look through the listings, many of us don’t even offer to give timing anymore.
I think if an advisor says in their listing that they are great at predicting dates, then they are inviting those types of questions so you are free to ask them, but I personally wouldn’t even trust those advisors. You can see from looking at the boards here that dates are often wrong, and clients seems to use that to judge an advisor’s ability. I saw plenty of posts here saying things like “She was great with the present and past but future dates were wrong.” Why do you think that is, that soooo many of us are able to see exactly what’s happening and what’s happened in your relationship but future turns out differently from the path we’re seeing? Obviously the reader has psychic ability – you’re a complete stranger possibly on the other side of the world from us and yet we know all about your significant other? I think it’s because that’s the way our abilities work. The present and past and all the problems and emotions surrounding them are easy for us to see, but we don’t see calendars and the future is changeable.
That being the case, I think if you want to get anything of significance out of a reading, you need to be asking the kinds of questions that actually use the psychic’s abilities to the best advantage and that actually will give you practical help in your life. You can often tell what kinds of questions that advisor specializes in by reading their listing, but if the advisor doesn’t list out questions there, things like the following will get you the best insight: “Is there anything I can do to bring X back to me?” or “What can I do to improve my relationship with X?” I often find that just asking “How does X feel about me?” gives all the answers you need. It usually tells you why they left, what they are feeling now, and what the best possible outcome would be with that relationship. Again, just asking “When” isn’t going to give you much. The “Why” and “How” are where the information lies.
I also want to point out that even though I think the dates advisors give are mostly inaccurate, I don’t think they know that. When you are right on with the past and present, you tend to think what you’re getting for the future must be accurate as well. I think they are taking that on good faith, but I also believe that just the act of telling someone what is coming in the future can change it. A lot of us feel that way, so we are careful to try to look at WHAT YOU CAN DO to lead to the future you want. If someone is telling you to sit tight and your dream is going to fall into your lap from the sky, they aren’t doing it right.
Another kind of question that has been complained about recently with the new year is “What do you see coming for 2018.” You know there is a specific area of your life you want to focus on, so just ask about that. Half the advisors on the board said they wouldn’t answer that and would ask the client to be more specific, and the other half said they would just go ahead and start the read but the client would always interrupt after a card or two with the more specific question. So just start with your specific question and save yourself some time/money.
Other than asking specific questions that factor your own actions and responsibility into the situation, I’d say giving your advisor information about the situation as they go along is extremely helpful to getting a good read. I know you hate to do it because then you think you are just “feeding” us info and we aren’t using our abilities to help you, but we are not omniscient and being able to put the info we receive into the perspective of your life isn’t easy so why shouldn’t you help us out? It is always shocking to me when I find how much more the info I’m getting makes sense because a client reveals something about the situation.
One example: I had a relationship read just yesterday where I kept seeing this other woman kind of on the periphery of the relationship, trying to dig her way in, and I could tell that it wasn’t someone the man was cheating with – no romantic or sexual tie – but it didn’t make any sense to me. I just didn’t say anything about it since I didn’t understand it at all and didn’t want to worry the client with half-ass fears I didn’t have more info on, but then the client later told me that her boyfriend’s sister didn’t like her and asked if the sister was influencing him at all. It was a Eureka moment for me! Oh, it’s his sister, and yes she’s influencing him! This kind of thing happens all the time, and it makes me a better reader each time it happens.
We aren’t omniscient and the feelings and impressions we get about your life aren’t always clear. I discard most of what I get during a read because it isn’t clear enough. But if you help clarify some of that for us, we can better help you. This is also why we love our repeat clients and they love us. The first read – especially if you give us no info – is the hardest to figure out. We know zero about you and have to weed through the info we get to find something substantial that makes sense, but the more we get to know you and the more we know about your situation, the more it’s all so clear. I don’t even have to pull cards for the clients I’ve had for years. As soon as we connect, I can interpret every impression I get for them because I know what it means and how it fits. I think that’s also part of why psychic-hoppers seem to get so many bad reads. They are all first-time reads, they give no info because they are testing the psychic, and the psychic can only understand so much from this faceless person the first time they connect. I repeat, none of us are omniscient. You can help yourself get a better reading by working WITH your psychic.
I hope that answered your question well enough, but let me know if you have others.
