I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
I am confused what the meaning "letting go" means then. Because women on here say they're letting go yet I've spoken to them recently and they said if anyone went near their POI they'd beat them up, lol. I think people kid themselves into thinking that they have moved on to get the prize. If you move on with the onset of "it's going to bring my POI back", it won't work. You have to move on because you genuinely have or want to.
I agree that it sounds like that person was still attached to wanting their desire - their specific outcome - and jealousy played into it too obviously it sounds like in the example you gave. My point is only that I think I personally have struggled with “letting go” thinking that it’s meaning is “don’t love this person anymore.” Because it’s really hard for me personally to think I can turn a switch that I suddenly don’t love someone. I still love lots of exes to be honest.
But when I read about how the law of attraction and law of detachment work together and can exist at the same time that made sense to me. And even if you just take out the whole idea of “manifesting” what you want yadda yadda....
You can still say well I recognize I love this person but I’m going to also recognize that I no longer want to be attached to wanting a certain outcome *because* I love this person.
So all I’m saying is that you can still love someone and practice non-attachment to wanting them or wanting a specific outcome (like getting back together) because you love them.
For me personally that is helping me. And it’s not because I think this will bring him back. It just really is what it is and is healthiest for me. I don’t know what the heck is going to happen and I’m worn out from worrying about it and even being attached to wanting to know the outcome. And if I try to fight that I love someone and make myself not love someone I love, i just get more wrapped up in that I still love them.
Anyway I don’t know if that helps but it’s iust my personal perspective on my personal experience.
This is one article that helped me even though I am not sure I’m on board at all with the whole practice of LOA. Not saying I agree with everything here but it did open my mind up related to this.
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/detachment.htmlSo bottom line is that I don’t think letting go has to equate to no longer loving someone. Maybe that happens maybe it doesn’t. But I think I learned that for me I can love someone without being attached to wanting an outcome because I love them.
Whatever happens I will get through this and I really have faith that the best is in store for me whether it’s with my POI or not. And I really am exhausted from wondering and worrying. I’ve been through much worse!!
Hope this helps clarify at least where I’m coming from.