So, I had read w/her about two weeks ago. Given her extensive feedback on here, I thought I would give her a try. Things were in a weird place with my boyfriend, and honestly I didn’t have to give any information or ask any questions she just basically asked me would you like me to do a spread on the two of you, and aside from our bdays she sprung right into it. She nailed the situation, in terms of what was going on between us. She described his actions/reactions as being very defensive and like an animal being backed into a corner, trying to aggressively fight his way out (he’s used the exact same analogy in apology of his poor behaviors on several occasions) she said that the nature of our current issues is not something that can be met head on, but will be sorted out over time. She explained exactly how I’m feeling (essentially, fed up, I can’t do this, this has entirely drained me) she explained how he had felt, which was also quite accurate, in terms of him feeling “restricted” contained, pressured (its pressure from within himself, which she had also explained) she told me that im currently upset with him because he’s not matching my efforts, emotionally, and that he’s not giving the relationship the attention/effort that it rightfully deserves, and that my feelings are 100% justified. She stated it was not from a lack of love/feelings, but stubbornness. (All true)
She said that in his mind, he’s the type of person who loves me, has sincere emotions, good intentions, but his actions are not aligned properly with that, because he’s childish and selfish and has this mentality that “if its not my way, I’m not interested” she stated that he will eventually come my way in terms of just doing the right things, and that he just needs to feel glorified/validated in his own selfish weird ways. Our biggest issue is “a communication break down” (also very true) we had a pending trip planned, and I had asked her if we were still going to attend the trip. At the present state that things were in, it was very questionable. She had said she sees a yes/no for the trip. She said its not going to be as planned, but we’ll make “lemonade out of lemons” she thought initially that either one of us would be going, or I would refund the trip, but she said “ultimately the choice is yours” we did end up going, but only after I had sent a long text basically saying lets put this shit aside and enjoy ourselves this weekend. She stated that she dislikes his current energy regarding the trip because it feels “entitled” like he should be going regardless. (That was also true given his bratty behavior) she had stated the conversations that we would have leading up to the trip and such.she said that the first conversation will completely catch me off guard, because he’ll be so aggressively defensive, that he’s going to use a previous argument as his ammo in order to try to regain “control” by attacking me and hoping that ill drop it. She said that there will be subsequent conversations, and that sadly his intentions are good, but his approach is horrific and it will be really uncomfortable for awhile. She did mention that when his “ego is negatively impacted” that he seeks complements and attention from other people, in order to boost himself. “Not cheating, just talking and flirting to feel better” she said he’s starting to realize how shady and inappropriate this behavior is and he’s stopping it. (This has also been true)
I think she’s absolutely fantastic at denoting the present situation and also the short term details (the way that she had predicted the subsequent conversations and the outcomes. I wish I had more long term predictions from her, but given her price (and how expensive that conversation actually was haha) I wasn’t about to remain on the line! Also, I wonder if she’s reliable with long term predictions? Has anyone had success with them from her?
