Thank you - it's heaven so far.
That said, I truly have to say that everything we say in passing here, IS true. When a man is ready, he's ready. you can't force him to get there any sooner. This guy entered my life ready, sure of what he wanted, and he's the type of man who goes for what he wants. Nothing is off limits with him conversationally. There's no weirdness. He tells me he wants to be my last, that he wants to be the rock in my life. And this is from a guy who was a complete player in college.
It took a few key other women though to break him out of his player/non-committal shell into who he is now - someone wanting forever and wanting to be a "good" man again. So I owe them, in a way.
And I truly believe everything happens for a reason - even the men who mark us so deeply we call psychics about them and spend our hard earned money (That we sometimes don't even have!) - that we stress over, that make us feel everything from elation to like we'll never find the love we want.
Rachel Marie on Bitwine said to me the last POI (who I was crushed over) - in hindsight - his purpose was to keep my hope alive, that there was someone amazing out there for me, and NOT to settle on POI 1. Because I was at the point where I felt flat about him, but he was (finally) coming back into my life.
So yes, it's a story of when the POI finally came back "ready" (or, as ready as that is, for that person - which, for my POI, wasn't even to the point of admitting verbally he wanted another chance, but wanting to plan trips together etc and "house shopping" with me for his new home) - and me having nothing left emotionally because the whole thing had sucked all my feelings dry. "Settling" can seem like a good idea - after all, so much time invested, so much feelings in the past.
But then POI 2 came in. And there was a boyfriend in between those two who helped with my healing, but ultimately wasn't for me - exactly as soul2soul predicted.
I honestly thought POI 2 was my soulmate, cause I had never felt anything like that so fast, and he even said he hadn't either. But he ghosted! Ugh, it was so killer and I thought about him every day for the longest time.
So I completely changed course - said eff this to dating altogether for a couple months - and right when I was about to rendezvous with POI1 (because ... well, ladies have needs too lolol) - BOOM. My current boyfriend walks into my life and turns everything on its head.
This all said...be kind to yourselves, all. I know some of us type out how men aint shit, and don't waste time on a guy (or girl!) treating you like that, etc - I think most of us know ITS NOT THAT EASY lol.
But when it's right... you'll know. You won't need a psychic to tell you.
And for me, the only ones predicting this man - sure some said "this one could be marriage" BUT I was like psssh ya right. I don't like future love predictions. And I wanted someone else altogheter. So it didn't change anything about how it happened, how I felt, how I thought about him, etc. Which I think is hugely important.