My two cents again - it's not healthy to sit and blame the readers tho - we all make choices to call the readers, instead of handling it ourselves, and then we make the choice to believe or not believe and act or not act.
So in the end, if you are still hanging on or did hang on, you/I/ we have nobody to blame but ourselves. In no case did the POI ever say "wait for me"
Grieve that it didn't work out the way you hoped and wanted, and move on to something else. If it's "meant to be" the person WILL come back, somehow, some way. If not, they won't. It's as simple (and as hard) as that!