Don't get me wrong, I've done it, but once I realized there was no movement within the relationship, I knew all the little, faux words of hope (the little bones he was throwing) was not going to benefit me in the long run.
One basically has to go on how a person is treating you and to look at their behavior because the saying and the doing are not even in the same boat. We can’t really blame the reader, they are on the outside looking in…we are that fly on the wall (we are involved).
It was explained to me like this once. If a guy says he doesn’t want children and is willing to go ahead and have unprotected sex (like most do), then guess what??? he is going to have a child (but, there are exceptions to this). All the guy is saying is that he doesn’t want the obligations and responsibilities that come with having children, because even after the child is born, he is out the door (again there are exceptions).
We can only go by the doing, not all the crap coming out of their mouths.