When I call I like a good amount of time in my readings, nothing less than 20 mins (unless it's a new reader and their totally off from the get go, then I cut the call quickly) and sometimes up to 1 hour if needed.
For short term I call Gaylene ( Abundant Visions) once a month or so, since she is a great tarot reader in my opionion and seems most accurate when I don't call too often. I like to let the cards and her guides play out. Yona, been told to wait 3 months.....her reading seem to go out further and it's been 2 months and things are happening as predicted. Lady Persephone, only had my 1st reading a month ago and she too sees things farther out for me so not calling her until they pass which they are starting too. Friend Sue, Same as Lady P. So far they have been the best for me.
I've called many others over the years and had readings weekly, sometimes twice a week, sometimes several in one day and I was going bonkers with all the different things they would tell me.....mostly fairytales, ego, guessing, cold reads, and advice that messed me up emotionally and made me even more anxious. I'm learning to let go more and not be so anxious.
As I'm backing off from readings, things are going in the right direction. Trusting my own intuition on how to handle my poi (I know him best) and just being myself without those nagging readings I've had about how he's feeling, what to expect on this time or date, etc.....I believe i was interjecting what was told in the readings when I was with him as to how I acted.....not hearing from him, how he should be actin, when he should be doing something, which seemed to fuck things up by my expectations of my readings. I still will call in the future, as I have too! Ugh! But I'm spacing them out more and more and learning to go with the flow and know whatever outcome is just going to be what's meant to be.
I know many of us are going through difficult times and I feel you pain, but please try to distract yourself and find something else to pass the time....something to get your mind off of your situation. Smoke a bowl, go shopping, exercise....whatever your thing is. Don't call too often....just my 15 cents worth.