I agree with you 100%. They tell their true feelings. But, based on my personal experience (just happened this March), you have to be careful with what you hear. I got myself tipsy just to have some courage to open up. He started drinking with me. He was tipsy too but he has a high tolerance. The good thing is the guys I date are good at communicating complicated thoughts and emotions when talking to me. So the alcohol is just for me.
When one is sober, one's conscious mind takes over. One makes decision based on logical thinking, logical evaluation of pros and cons, weighs risk vs benefits. etc etc. One cannot let go of these influences or inhibition. Even if one strongly desires somebody or something, one's conscious mind will stop this person from losing inhibition and overlooking all the obstacles to obtain it.
When one is drunk, one tends to overlook and DOWNSIZE all the obstacles. Subconscious mind came out to dominate. He tells you what he truly desires. It may be true. But it often is not reliable. He may not act on his true desire. After he sobers up, he will continue his old way. It happens a lot. That's why drunk people do stuff they normally would not do when they are sober. When their senses came back, all the inhibition and obstacles come back. So ......
Well said...I agree. A person may reveal their deeper feelings when they are drunk...or act on impulses they normally wouldn't follow. But that does not mean they will continue to follow through on those things when they are sober...more often the opposite, they will be embarrassed or just flat out deny it.
In the long run those deeper feelings and intentions may will out and come to fruition, but it can take awhile for a person to work through whatever is stopping them from acting on it...like, years.
The downside to getting readings is that some readers - especially empaths - can pick up on all those deeper feelings and intentions but they don't always "see" what is stopping the person from acting on it. They might feel strongly that something will happen and give us relatively short time frames, when in actuality it could take a long time.
And when the reader is very feeling-oriented I think they over-emphasize the FEELINGS...and they can totally miss picking up on the rational and practical reasons why people can't always ACT on their feelings. In reality we all have things we have feelings about and wish we could do, but life doesn't always work out that way.
Lots of people have feelings at one time or another about "hating" their job...it might be a mood or a passing thing, or it might be a deeper feeling that the person has to suppress every day so they can get on with things...but the reality is a lot of people don't have the options to just quit their job or change careers when they feel like it.
It can be the same with relationships...you can have very deep feelings for someone and really wish you could be with them, but still have all kinds of reasons why it doesn't seem like a good idea to act on it. And the reasons aren't necessarily obstacles that have to be overcome...sometimes they are things we wouldn't ever be willing to give up or compromise, and shouldn't.
But again the downside of getting readings is sometimes they frame it to us like the reasons are all obstacles that can be overcome...rather than issues of compatibility or timing or life circumstances. They say oh this person really loves you (which may be TRUE) but they aren't acting on it because ___ and as soon as they get that figured out they will be ready to move forward. And they present it like it will have a fairytale ending.