Just bumping this up. Decided to give her a try and at first I’m listening like okay wow I guess you’re really going to sell me this fairy tale and I’m saying to myself okay well maybe you’re right but I don’t believe you at all ...
Then she whips out.... “but he was seeing someone.... and if I ask is he still seeing someone the answer is yes, he definitely is... “ then continues to tell me fairy tale ish things .... that he can’t stop thinking about me and that it’s a bit of an interference.
Here’s the thing.
When we broke up he wanted to be friends. Then one of the times I reached out afterwards he agreed that he wanted to get together for a “coffee or something” once his work slowed down... but then we didn’t.
When we broke up we talked A LOT about how he always maintained his friendships ... and considering how well HE even said we connected I was shocked that I just never ever heard from him again. Ever.
So call me crazy but the only thing I can think is that the woman he started seeing knew about me and knew how much he had felt for me and doesn’t want him to be in touch with me. And ever since I’ve known he’s been seeing someone I never reached out because I just wouldn’t go there. I wouldn’t interfere like that.
Anyway so.... the optimist in me thinks.... well... maybe she IS right. And maybe a bunch of the others who have told me he misses me are right.
Of course the pessimist in me says no you’re being taken for a ride.
And the realist who I most try to remember says okay just be in the present and see it for what it is. Regardless if he does or doesn’t think of you blah blah blah he’s not WITH you NOW. So be in the now. And she was adamant about not putting my life on hold.
As others have said every one of them have said do not put your life on hold for this man. And I’m not it’s just that no one’s caught my eye really. Well... one guy kinda recently but ... it’s not really a conducive situation to getting to know him. But maybe.
But anyway. Yeah so she EASILY picked up the third party factor for whatever that’s worth.