In my opinion Detachment doesn't mean ignoring the other person, to ignore other definitely signals that you are not interested. "Ignore" might work in the very initial phase but not if relationship is more than 6 months old. Detachment is; not to attach yourself with the outcome, give your love freely without the expectation as we give to our family members but we don't feel used and abused. Give love, but don't let anybody run over you, define your boundaries how much and to what extent so that they always have a respect for you. Definitely not a easy thing to practice.
I also think that what is wrong in telling some one that you love them and want to be with them (of course after a certain time in relationship), why to play it cool. Its up to them if they choose to say yes or no but there would be some clarity. Don't hang on after all we are humans and deserve reciprocation of our love.
Well I am learning these things finally..
Synergy you are not doing anything wrong by expecting a commitment from your guy but it is up to you how long would you wait and to what extent would you tolerate his ignorance and that could also be a reason you are getting different psychic reading of having some other person in your life, since your energy and vibration are signaling some sort of impatience to those readers.
I like meditation and manifestation as Elaan said. Meditation controls your anxiety and increase your patience.
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