Want to chip in, if you are actively talking to a man and he's not contacting, you need to do your due diligence to also contact him unless he’s unresponsive then I’d say let the chip fall! A relationship should not be one sided where a woman expect a man to do all the work. Also, if I were a man and you come at me like that all the time with demands, I will move on to the next woman who is more understanding and doesn’t make everything dramatic.
One of Yona predictions is happening since July 2019 Yona said that my POI will go quiet she didn’t say why . I’m Jan Yona again said that POI and I will not be speaking and then we meet up . Since November poi and I talk everyday . Well, I have not heard from poi in the last three days and I will not be reaching out to him . When he decides to resurface I will let him know that I find this behavior unacceptable and the next time that he decides to do it he shouldn’t even resurface because he will be blocked and cut off . To me communication is everything he can easily send a text that he’s not in the mood to talk or etc and if he’s not able to do that then he needs to leave me alone
When he reaches out again don’t bring it up don’t even start an argument.
Why not? Because she might scare him away? I think she should set boundaries on what's ok and what isn't. That isn't starting an argument, it's respecting herself. I think most of us wouldn't be here if we set boundaries and expectations from the beginning.
Agreed, but my assumption (maybe incorrectly) is that she did reach out and he went silent. It does go both ways. 👍
Thanks guys. So I never reached out to POI because I honestly refuse to put myself in that position. I feel like if you speak to someone often and then all of a sudden they disappear then that means they don't want to talk. When I say disappear I mean not communicating not in the sense of them ignoring my texts (which can also be considered disappearing).
Today POI texted me. So now I'm thinking this is not the time that Yona is speaking about in regard to him going quiet. I thought it would have been longer than 3 days.
But he texted me saying hey, how are you? How was your weekend? I automatically told him you disappear for three days then ask how I am. He expressed that he didn't disappear and that he was stressed and was not in a good mood and that if I felt like he disappeared I should have checked on him. I told him , that to me that is disappearing . We speak often so for him not to communicate for a period of time is disappearing. I am empathetic to a certain extent until Im being treated in a way I feel I don't deserve. So I was not going to go out of my way to reach out to him when it was evident he does not want to talk. I told him he could have communicated that he was not in the mood and when he is ready to talk then I would have followed up with him on how he was doing.I also told him that I am sure he would not like if it was the other way around and I did that to him. He then said I was right, and he apologize and he shouldn't have taken his stress out on me and he will do a better job of letting me know when he is feeling stressed. This conversation matched up with Yonas prediction that she gave me till June. She said that I will be speaking up for myself when it comes to POI and that this will have a positive effect on the relationship.She said I have the tendency to be diplomatic which can give people conflicting messages. The cards show me with filter off and that I am expressing my feelings to POI.
So guys, set boundaries! I know for me I can not tolerate disappearing acts that is one thing that really gets me . I use to allow it in the past and I never spoke up for myself because I didn't want to push the guy away or feel like im clingy or a bad person. But this just caused the person to keep hurting me and declined my self esteem. If the person really cares and you speak up for your self they will not dismiss how you feel and if they do fuck them! Your feelings are worth being acknowledged
