Well POI are now having issues and Yona’s prediction of me cutting him off maybe in works but it’s not because of me being irrational like she said but more so due to how he’s acting and me feeling like he doesn’t really care . Over the weekend ooo slept over and we were intimate though I told myself not to do it because I knew I would regret it. So the first few days I wasn’t bothered we were being all lovely dovey and then by Monday I was just feeling uneasy . I sent POI a text asking him where his head is at and I expressed to him that though I enjoyed us being intimate I am feeling uneasy because I believe sex complicates things and he’s on a break and I’m just feeling off and I would like to know where his head is at so I can figure out what I’m going to do for myself. I sent this text to him at 730 pm I get no reply . Which to me is weird because we were texting before I sent that text. Next morning he says he fell asleep and he has an appointment and will answer my question after okay that’s fine . He text me after his appt but instead of answering my question he goes on a rant talking about his day so I’m annoyed I start to be short with him . 930
he text me asking me something so I then replied are you not going to answer my question from last night and of course silence . This morning I don’t get a text from him at all. This incident is really opening my eyes because to me if someone says that they care about you and even ask you to come to them if you are feeling any type of way before cutting them off and I do this and you decide not to reply. To me it’s like tou don’t care , your stonewalling and everything that you said is a lie . So now he is ultimately the one that will be causing me to cut him off for his lack of empathy and care towards me
I would definitely be feeling the same way as you are - it's not hard for someone to say "Hey, can we have this conversation later, I'm really not ready to talk about it right now" in order to give themselves time to process things. But to be promised an explanation and then ignored (repeatedly!) would drive me crazy - my POI pulled stuff like this all the time and it hurt and irritated me to no end. In my opinion it comes down to emotional immaturity on that person's part and maybe even a little lack of concern for your feelings.
That being said, I also agree with other posters who advise not to be too hasty or do/say anything you might regret, because you might do damage you can't undo later. If you decide to cut him off, make sure that is definitely what you want. In the meantime, file his behavior during this incident away in your brain as a potential big ol' red flag...
Sorry, Lovefash, I hope things work out for you!