On how much to reveal to Yona, this is a dilemma. Personally I just am not disciplined enough to not update her. So if it'd been a breakup, I'd have updated her.
But on this house idea, I will hold my tongue to see if she sees it on her own as a shadow or coming up in the 'summer'.
Unfortunately for me, this house possibility is tied to my paperwork; that is, the paperwork's delay is an obstacle.
On that note, here's how she minimizes stuff. Back in December, she saw an obstacle to this paperwork. She picked it out on her own as the shadow. I was preparing to start the process and excited about it. she immediately saw it as the no 1 issue on my mind but said there's a delay with it-maybe some paperwork is returned to you and it's delayed by a week or so, or you have your appointment mixed up, she mused , in her typical Yona way. My heart sank as soon as she said she saw an obstacle. I couldn't fathom any obstacles THEN. but in January I began suspecting whether the newly emerging corona may be the obstacle. Oh and boy was I right.
What would have already completed LAST month has not budged and the agency dealing with it will now furlough its staff, resulting in years' more of waiting. So what would have been 2-3 months has turned into 2-3 years, at best.
So Yona's '1 week' delay , is a delay of several YEARS. not months, years. On a similar note, if she says she doesn't see a 2 of swords of 6 months, she is most likely not seeing a gap of 6 years but it may be 2-3 years.
So let's see what comes up for me in the upcoming top up. I worry, I worry immensely that it's going to show random app energies. I am DONE with that. Beyond done. i cannot fathom one more fish guy, one more 'hey', one more insult, one more 'how's your weekend'. I am done. No matter what she sees, I will not go back. It is such a relief every day to wake up to no 'how's your day' messages or random app alerts. It makes my day, not to have that, it truly does. Keep in mind, all, that I was at this for SEVEN years, YEARS. Think about what one accomplishes in the same amount of time. Hell, I made tenure in less time and published a book within 2 years.. My advisees completed their PhDs in less time. So when I say I'm done, I am done, period. Hell will freeze over before I swipe one more time.
Professor -what she flat out got wrong for me was what I described. Improvement and increase in communications with the old Wands. at that point, we had an acquaintanceship bordering on a friendship. He never communicated over text that well but if anything he was the MOST communicative during that time . several months after that reading, the common friends left town, for good. And I decided the situation was going nowhere and we lost ALL contact. so total opposite to what she predicted.
Sure, you can argue it applies to a future love interest. But I actually don't think I will have another love interest ever again-see above, no more apps.