I'm glad that sharing this experience has been helpful to you...
I think it's been a combination of things, including it approaching around a year of hanging on and so not wanting to spend another year in the same pattern. The other factor is that the readings are really financially catching up to me and to continue to spend money on them when I am finally able to see that they are not serving me is all coming together. Enough time has passed with things not panning out the way they were predicted to and I can finally start to be objective and realistic about it.
Then, the information that I found was another reality check, probably the strongest. What's interesting is that I could easily have found this info some time ago, had I wanted to but I don't think I did. I just wasn't ready. On some level I even knew that.
I'm hardly out of the woods yet on the addiction to readings, but I have no interest in asking about this person anymore which is HUGE. I just need to be cautious about not finding something new to try to control and I don't pretend that's going to be easy - although I genuinely feel so much better having cut these particular cords.
I've mentioned this before, but I really identified with Natalie Lue's book the Dreamer and The Fantasy Relationship. I think many of us are not liking the information that we're readily perceiving with our 5 senses, and even with our own intuition and so we look to readings to change that and get a story that we'd prefer. At least, I feel that this is what I was doing. This whole situation was piggybacked onto a painful divorce and so I was already in a vulnerable spot and part of me is just learning to see and accept that for what it was.
One other thing, in the process of letting go of this, I also allowed myself to experience the anger that I felt. When psychics explain away why a person is acting like a you know what, for me, it can lead to a denial that I'm actually hurt and angry. When you've got someone that your paying to tell you that someone is scared, not ready, has low self esteem, thinks your too good for them, and so on and so forth, you dismiss your feelings in favor of this version of reality and press reset and all better again, and back to waiting around mode. This is exactly what these fairy tale readings were doing for me. As soon as I'd start to feel angry, sad, whatever, I'd get a reading, explain it all away and it then seemed perfectly normal to keep waiting again.
So, in conclusion, I think it's a matter of time+money+reality = let go
I also really wanted this, to let this go, so I've been struggling and doing a lot of self reflection, etc. Over the course of my life, anything that I've really struggled with to quit, once it's time, it's actually pretty easy. It's just all the stars lining up, but you have to line them up, push and shove and cajole those stars into place -- and once they're there, in line, Voilah! Shift! and onward.
I've also noticed that many of the readings that I've gotten over the years where I didn't really love what I heard - those are probably the ones I should have paid a lot more attention to. When you get a reading where everything is going to be fantastic, I'd be more skeptical about those...
Beyond all of these thoughts, I'm not a person to be giving advice. I'm still struggling, but this was a big event for me and I do feel so much better. Like I said, I'll still get readings, but I firmly believe that the future is changeable and it's up to us to create it.
If/when I feel like getting a reading (even if on a new person or subject matter), it's also been helpful to me to review all of my old notes and focus on all of the things that were wrong, inaccurate, did not happen, etc. And really sit with that stuff instead of focusing on the few hits out of many more misses.
I've also realized that many psychics can predict things that happen for sure, but often times these things don't matter anyway. For instance, recently, I had several of my 'go-to's' predict very precisely a guy that I'd meet and date (actually most of my psychics are VERY good at predicting people that come into my life). This particular guy, some even said I'd marry him but guess what? I could barely stand to be around him. I gave myself a little time to be absolutely sure of my feelings, but do you know how confusing that is to be told in great detail about a person you'll meet, that he'll be so fantastic that you'll want to marry him and you can't even stand to be on a date with him??? So, great, fine, prediction made, but it didn't matter! And, even worse, had they NOT predicted him and told me how fantastic he'd be, I'd never have wanted to date him in the first place, which in hindsight, would have been a much better choice for both of us because I probably wound up hurting him, which if I had listened to my own intuition on this matter I would have already known. This particular situation also helped me to clarify which psychics I actually think are useful for me (already mentioned in my original post) since they were very clear about this person not being a suitable match for me.
Point being, we really have to take all of this stuff with a massive grain of salt. I've been seeing this time and time again, a prediction happens but it really had no consequence -- Now, let's just say the man I've just let go of contacts me now, guess what? I wouldn't even care! So, all of the psychics would be right, but it doesn't matter!
Laughing at oneself is helpful too. The complete absurdity of all of this. Learning to see the humor in hearing the sound of all of our money being flushed down the metaphysical toilet! We are definitely our own worst enemies here. I honestly don't think these psychics have much to do with it. We're just mirroring our own neurotic energy back at ourselves through them. I'm speaking for myself, but I know some of us feel this way. And, even in spite of some of my psychics being so incredibly off about so many things, I still don't hold any negativity toward them -- another book that has helped me to process what many of us here are doing is "Messages from Spirit" by Collette Baron Reid. I've mentioned it before, and possibly even heard about it on this forum (don't remember) but she goes into great detail about all of this for any newbies out there looking for more tangible information on addiction to psychic readings.
I wish us all a lot of luck! Of course if there are any significant updates to this fairytale, I'll let you all know.
