Is anyone else feeling shitty like me

[AngelGuided]

Hang in there cjean, we're all here pulling for ya...we're here to support you!

[cj]

Nothing planned.
When I feel like this I usually like to be alone. 

[Beachgirl333]

Well I have to say that since I have detached myself from the situation I have been feeling so much more powerful.  He doesnt have control over me and I love this feeling.  again I woke up in a great mood.

Cjean...maybe you should try to detach for a little while.  It might help.

[Libra]

Great Healer! I'm glad you had fun and you are able to do something else instead sitting home and crying your eyes out. So go out and have fun, and if the Colomibian psychic is right you will have your dream in the end. 

[kiki155]

Hi everyone.
My computer was on the fritz for a couple days, so I didn't check in.

fm - You are so cute. I love everything you wrote.

[Beachgirl333]

Angle

One reason why I hate FB is because people can go on your page and know what your doing thats if you post everything you do.  I met someone on Nov. whom I was talking to on the text which I hate because I am too old to be text.  I feel that if you are going to get to know someone PICK UP THE PHONE!  So I would keep my conversations breif with him over text.  Finally after the holidays he asked me out to dinner.  But occasisonally I found myself looking on his FB to see what he was up to.  One night I was out with him to dinner and I noticed before he picked me up that his friends were asking him to go to the casinos. So I was worried I wouldnt see him.  But we did go out and while I was out with him he asked if I wanted to go to the casinos.  I never let on that I was looking at his FB page.

With this guy...I think you should just enjoy whatever happens.  I think you may have scared him by letting him know you know about the friday's club night out.  All I know is that if someone wants to be with me so bad he will do that.  Thats is why I am not ;listening to any of the psych anymore.  They tell me my SM wants to be with me that I am his true love well....where is he? wHY ISNT HE KNOCKING DOWN MY DOOR?   I have been sick with pnemonia for 2 weeks now.  He has not seem me at work for over a month.  He knows something is wrong.  If he really cared, if I was really the one he would have been here with me but he's not so screw him!  And dont assume that because some girl is on the dating website at the same time he is they are dating...do you know this for sure?  have you established a serious commitment with him?  If not then you should be dating other people.  may be you should just distance yourself from him and if he calls ignore his call no one says you have to pick up the phone or respond to his text.  Sorry to hear this. I hate when they can goout with their friends when their sick but they postpone a date.

[Libra]

Angel, I must agree with Beachgirl, Im not a fan of FB, I used it at some point, and found out that it served me and other people as a spying tool, and that makes your mind nuts.

As far as the new guy, he is probably overwhelmed with you, thinking wow I met this great girl, and we have so much in common, now what? And that is making him confused. You have to give it time Angel.

[Luckystar]

"Angel, I must agree with Beachgirl, Im not a fan of FB, I used it at some point, and found out that it served me and other people as a spying tool, and that makes your mind nuts.
 
---ugh, this is true i need to remove myself from fb...i already made sure i dont have a facebook wall but there is way too much going on online and some of its just for people to make a show...

"As far as the new guy, he is probably overwhelmed with you, thinking wow I met this great girl, and we have so much in common, now what? And that is making him confused. You have to give it time Angel."

----well libra, you sound much more tolerant that i am...i would have assumed he made me a back up plan like you angel, and that would not fly with me...so i guess it depends on how much you like him and whether you feel like going through a "maybe... maybe not" dating scenario.

[AngelGuided]

Thanks Beachgirl, Libra, and CSK!  I know we're not exclusive, that's not really what bothers me, it's just the fact that he made plans with me and I don't think it's right to blow me off?!!  If he were dating some, I wouldn't blame him, but it seems like he's in active pursuit.  I could be wrong about the dating site, it's just that there's been a pattern of it and it goes on for hours just like when we were chatting Monday night and it's been every night this week?  I can't help but think there's a reason he's backing out of our plans?  He may be confused, I don't know?  I really don't think he knows what he wants?  Despite everything I've been through, I still know who I am and for the most part what I want out of life.  I guess not everybody is able to do that?

[cj]

not everyone is able to do that angel..thats why you have to keep on keeping on....I'm doing that and taking a jumbo glass of margarita's with me! *cheers

[AngelGuided]

Have one for me cjean...I'll have one tomorrow night with my girls!!!!

[cj]

  woohoo! you go girl....and meet another boo while your out!

[AngelGuided]

Never know?  I'm going out with a bunch of married women though, I think???

[Sunshinegirl]

Ok ladies... I have been gone on a work trip again so I'm catching up and mostly I'm just reading because I'm in a very different spot with relationships here.    Anyway, I have mentioned this in the past and I'm going to mention it again just because this was so helpful to me when I needed it.   It's an E-Book called "Catch Him and Keep Him" by Christian Carter which you can find by Googling it.     I know the title sounds a bit manipulative however, it's more about learning to control your own "female" emotions and how to deal with the differences between men and women and how to keep yourself from reacting in a negative way and killing it at the beginning (like I'm reading here in some cases, ouch!)  :-( 

I'm not saying this made it a piece of cake, but I really think reading this book has been the difference between my "old way" of dating, and my "new way" of dating which has lead me to SM.     I CAN relate to what many of you are talking about.   I went through it too with SM but I knew how to deal with it differently this time because of the book.   In my opinion, the book helps women to be the one to make the choice, not the men, which is sort of how I used to date for many, many years!!!

Anyway, just a word of warning... I have purchsed Carter's other books/tapes, blah, blah, and they were soooo not worth it.    So, if your going to do it, just read the ebook and reread the ebook and stop there.    The rest of the stuff is just money makers for Carter.   

I hope all works out for all of you lovely ladies... and those fabulous guys on here too! :-)

[kirakira]

Angel, I think you may be over-analyzing his actions.  We've all done it, and like we all know, the technology makes it too easy -but also to easy to think we know when we might not.  I'm not saying to trust him completely, but try try try not to check on him, I know that's hard, but it's torture for you.  And you really can't be sure what any of it means.  Remember, guys often have a different sense of time (my ex used to always say "the other day"- I'd be like "you mean last night?!" or "you mean two fucking weeks ago?!").  They can be a little sneaky with keeping a couple burners on too.  All you can do is be honest with yourself and him and ask for the straight deal or not, but if you haven't established something, don't let it ruffle you yet.
He shouldn't have planned a Friday night with you if he wasn't gonna do it, but what if he was?  You won't know because you assumed he had plans to go to that club, but facebook events are not like, set in stone, you know, maybe he wanted to see if you'd wanna go, or just bail altogether on it!  Try to relax, sweetie!!!!!!!  Don't sabotage the potential 

Speaking of lovely guys... jb?!!? WHAT IS UP?  and healer... you sure are quiet too!!!